still separated, headed for D?

[newmama]

Holy crap- I didn't have to do a recap after all? You have read all of my threads? wow! Thank you!

I sort of get the vibe you think I am always looking for the negative. I always have hope (what do we have without it) but I also tend to look at the realities of the situation.

I don't think you look for the negative! I think you are tough love! To me there is a difference. I just don't agree with you(at this time) that WH is dead set on divorcing me and that it is inevitable.

You are correct- I did say I would do everything I haven't done during the 4th week from now before filing for D which included saying I had a date! I don't know..argh! But I do think I NEED to take a break from strategizing and do what I said I should do a few posts back- not post/analyze WH's behavior, stick to short and sweet exchanges, discuss S' bedtime schedule and then during S' birthday, bring up D.

That has not worked either. In both case scenarios you gave your H all the power. It is time for you to take back your personal power.

I see what you are saying. If a month doesn't make much of a difference, it does to me in carefully planning out what I will do and how (not the easy part of the divorce but how to talk to WH about it) but you haven't disagreed with me about OW freaking out!

I just don't see the point in discussing OW and S to him. Seriously- what will come of it? What are the benefits? I don't get it!