Exposed finally,,limbo land

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Tonight I think my marriage has been given the death blow. I thought right when thinking she was planning another night out with OM. TM her a couple times from work, to see what was up, if we were doing anything after I got off work - no answer. Finally came back with ‘please just let me be‘. I knew where they were, a festival in their hometown that OM never misses, so gassed up the car to head there and another TM that she admitted where she was, so I said I was ½ way there, she said DO NOT come, I said no biggie, let’s see how you feel when a few of your hick town boys kick the [censored] out of me, just for trying to talk with you.
I asked her, are you choosing him and the affair or me and the family, she says the DD have nothing to do with it, so I asked,’ fine is it Om and affair or me?’ She says it’s nothing to do with him, I just want a D. I said, we need some space, you need to find somewhere else to live. She says ‘Me?’, I said ya, this is all your doing, I haven’t done anything wrong. She says,’last time you screwed it up, and I moved out, so this time it’s the other way around’, ‘oh, no, you left voluntarily, I am not.’
Near the end, I said I do not want a D, we need to be separated, and you can go run wild, and if after some time, you still want a D, you can have it’, probably totally wrong, but at this point, I really don’t give a rats a$$. Told her to move into the basement. She wanted to make sure I didn’t put any of her stuff outside.
We will talk tomorrow night, and see what there is to figure out.

I'm a mess