still separated, headed for D?

[WhatNow]

I have been at this in some form or another since 9/08.

Am I being cuckoo for thinking that it is unrealistic that much of anything other than me filing for D (at this point) is going to get that man to budge? SERIOUSLY?

Don't file to get him to budge! File b/c it is what YOU WANT!

This is more like it!

I did just have a thought though. Since I am willing to file for D in 4 weeks, I could try some drastic changes in 4 weeks instead. On S' b-day I could have his clothes packed and the 2 pieces of furniture that he wants all ready to go. In the same week I could just say "I have a date on Thursday night. Is there any way you could keep S overnight or should I find a sitter?" I could even ask him for his keys to the house. Of course then I would need to bring up D within the next couple of weeks. Why am I waiting 4 weeks and not 2? I want to see what OW does. If I did it earlier, I would always second guess myself.

Have you thought of moving to another city? What would H think of a GREAT job offer requiring you to move a bit away? Maybe save this for the next time he brings up D? My H freaked when I mentioned moving and said he'd follow me w/o OW...FYI...It caused a slight budge and realization on his part. What if you just said the current visitation isn't working for you b/c of contact w/ him? Just throwing ideas at ya! Please disregard immediately if they sound wrong to you. :b