OW actually told me prior to my wife and I getting married that she would give daughter up if I would not marry wife and be with her b/c I said I didn't think I could be a stepfather. I was trying to draw her out to see if she'd say that I wouldn't be a stepfather (that it was mine) or something to that effect.
She was willing to "give up" a two year old child if you would not marry your girlfriend. She was married at this time or did they get divorced after the pregnancy? Your "former" friend, her husband, did he question the pregnancy? I assume he found out about you?
By putting this infant up for adoption<?> she expected to have a life with you? So you were in contact with her all along? What were you saying to her that her convince your companionship was worth more than a child?
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Finally found out for sure from her in summer of 2009 that child is not mine
Timing must have been very suspicious to have you concerned for 8 years. You had a DNA paternity test or is she going by the idea that the girls feet look more like the husbands than yours?
Here's a time line synopsis of some major events you have told us about in the past 3 years
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* Feb 2007. OW contacts me to "congradulate" me on wife being pregnant. * We had some sporatic communication and she became my "friend" again. * it was sporatic communication that started to increase until 3/09/09. * That was the day that my wife found cell records that I had been talking to OW alot more than sporatic. * OW plays suicide card on me and I fall for it. * the only thing I can think to do is to try to keep her happy and hopefully she will give up and move on if i keep breaking promises to her. * I come clean to her on 2/25/10. * "MOVE SOME OF MY STUFF" OUT OF THE HOUSE 2/28/09. * ABOUT 2 WEEKS INTO THE SEPARATION I GOT THIS EMAIL * had no contact w/OW since middle of March.
2 years of sporadic phone communication then another year, and even after your wife kicks you out of the house you are still talking to her. "alot more than sporatic" were your words. You two must have talked about alot. "best friends" you said. The two of you must have talked about everything. How were you "keeping her happy?"
You liked her. You liked her a lot, or else you would not have been sneaking off the meet up with her. So, tell us about her. Does she work, What does she do, ever been arrested, history of mental illness? How hard is her life? She got other boyfriends? Like to hang out in the bar and drink? Fishing? She like NASCAR? Is she really girlie? cute? Whats her favorite country singer?
Tell me more about her so I can gauge where she is coming from? If she is "fabricating" stories and telling you she is giving up kids that just got done suckling off her breasts and are now calling her mamma, she wants something from you, or you made plans and she was expecting you to come through, what was so special about your relationship with her? You must have done her wrong, how?
I find it hard to believe a man and a woman can become "best friends" talking on the phone. I find it even harder to believe in a town of 300 people over the period of 3 years the two of you never met up? What did you two do when you ran into each other in town, pretend like you didn't know each other, and make a little hand signal of call me later? Then commiserate that you cant be together? What did you do when you got lonely, or your wife was too tired from a day and night of taking care of the boy to take care of you? phone sex?
She's got you by the balls; You are throwing you because you are breaking promises to her? There is something you are scared of that is bigger then phone sex and a BJ, what is it?
Two weeks after you moved out you got the I'm done letter. You're wife knows doesn't she? It would really help if you told us the whole story.
