Things seemed to start well. He responds to the 'friendly' stuff, which is frustrating and annoying. (Like in my sitch.) I like your sentence about being friendly but not supporting his decisions. I don't think you need to say it again. I wish I would have said it this past time with my WH!
Originally Posted By: Piano
What he goes on to tell me: WH came back to the country 6 months ago to tell me about the A and his wishes to move on. WH came back to "build the foundations for a future" - not a future with ME. But a future with his child, which would have to go VIA me. That he wants 'to live a life without me' or 'wants me out of his life', something like that.
Sigh.
My WH says "I don't want you as a wife; let's just be friends." Your WH seems to be saying that he doesn't want you in his life at ALL! That is sooo crazy. It makes NO sense to marry someone and spend 12 years together, get pregnant, and then want nothing to do with them. Your WH is really off the deep end. This may not be what you want to hear, but to me that gives me more hope for your sitch.
The first two points on your wish list are just that--wishes. I think it'd be great if he agreed to them, but he might not.
I think the last two should be on a "must" list. I don't think you should take no for an answer! Also, in splitting your assets, at least in the US, YOU get the bulk of the stuff because you're the LBS with the child. I don't know if you guys have joint furniture here or what, but I'm assuming that's what you want to keep when you say 'apartment.'
Keep us updated. . . and grandpere still hasn't written back?
