I just can't take it anymore

[Serenity13]

James ~

I said it in the alt and I will say it here...

I am very very proud of you for taking this huge step...

To finally see some happiness in your post thrills me beyond words.

You will do just fine my friend!



(((Hugs)))

[pigskin]

James - gotta say "good for you". Just make sure you are done with your wife before you get in too deep with anyone.

Faith and trust in the Lord will carry you into each tomorrow. There is nothing we can do about yesterday, but tomorrow is a different matter entirely.

Those who have endured the deepest of life's valleys are always the best teachers and examples to the rest of us.

[james217]

James - gotta say "good for you". Just make sure you are done with your wife before you get in too deep with anyone.

Faith and trust in the Lord will carry you into each tomorrow. There is nothing we can do about yesterday, but tomorrow is a different matter entirely.

Those who have endured the deepest of life's valleys are always the best teachers and examples to the rest of us.

I'm not gonna get deep. I just needed to get out dude. Felt good to know that I still draw interested from the opposite sex. LOL

I don't know what is gonna happen with WAW. She is still N.C. been that way for 3 weeks. I've emailed her once and sent her a few vms over that span. No texts or anything though.

She hasn't responded. Just listened to my vms and said nothing. Hasn't said a word about paying her half of the phone (she hasn't made any calls in like 2 weeks so she probably has another one but I'm going to end up totally screwed there. I tried what C.G. stated and it's a no go)

So I'll go out with friends and just try to have fun while I pick up the pieces and try to maintain

[james217]

Welp my cell phone has rolled over to flex pay balance. Can't afford the bill so I can't use it.

I saw s10. He spent the night last night. We played the wii (made me dizzy with the eye probs but was fun) and computer games until around 2 a.m.

He is supposed to be coming back on Friday. He insisted on calling waw. So I let him leave a vm. I talk to him about it but he'll have to accept it and deal with it on his own.

WAW has not said a single word to me in a month now. NOt a single word.

It hurts but what can I do?

It was good to see s10. Alot of old friends are encouraging me to go to church. I'm not ready yet.

[MrBond]

"I talk to him about it but he'll have to accept it and deal with it on his own."

No he will not have to "deal with it on his own".

You are his father. YOU deal with it and help him to cope. Don't start dumping your insecurities onto your son. He's only 10.

Start leading like a father should. You may not be able to control what your W does, but you can soften the blow for him. It's your job as his father.

[james217]

"I talk to him about it but he'll have to accept it and deal with it on his own."

No he will not have to "deal with it on his own".

You are his father. YOU deal with it and help him to cope. Don't start dumping your insecurities onto your son. He's only 10.

Start leading like a father should. You may not be able to control what your W does, but you can soften the blow for him. It's your job as his father.

oh Ill be there to help him deal with it but until he comes to grips and accepts it there's nothing I can really do about it. Ill just be there when he finally is ready to cope with it.

[MrBond]

That's the point. You don't wait until he is ready to cope. You help to transition him into coping. Read as much as you can about children and D and how best to take care of it.

Trust me. Don't wait until it's too late. You don't want him resenting his mother and you.

[james217]

That's the point. You don't wait until he is ready to cope. You help to transition him into coping. Read as much as you can about children and D and how best to take care of it.

Trust me. Don't wait until it's too late. You don't want him resenting his mother and you.

I'm transitioning him into.

He's come over and spent the night two times so far. We've played video games and he's had questions and wanted to talk to her and I try to explain the best way I can.

Good god when does the pain stop? Still N.C. with WAW

I'm trying to stay busy and not think about it as much. I've dropped about 20 pounds. I'm still working on myself.

I want to get out of this funk. *sighs*

[TimeHeals]

Good god when does the pain stop?

It starts getting better when you learn what you need to learn and really begin to accept it.

I want to get out of this funk. *sighs*

Getting around it isn't a good option. You have to go right through it.

[pigskin]

Alot of old friends are encouraging me to go to church. I'm not ready yet.

If God himself showed up at your door and said, "Please go to church." Would you go?

Because I have news for you. He just did. Via your old friends. Listen to Him.