still separated, headed for D?

[gatsby11]

I would remove all trace aspects of your H in your home. If your son wants photos of his dad around keep them in his room.

I would eliminate the drop offs/pick ups at your house and find a neutral spot.

If you have family or a close friend I would send them to drop off son every now and again so your H really gets what it will be like to have next to no contact with you and he also may wonder what is keeping you so busy.

Great post, CityGirl! You make a lot of sense. And I agree with everything above, NM.