I asked him, "Does it make you feel good about yourself when someone flirts with you?"
He responded, "Yes."
I asked, "Do I need to be scared when someone flirts with you?"
He responded, "No."
That's pretty much how things sit with me as well. If some friend of mine flirts with me, it puts me in a good mood and builds up my PMA. And there's no way I'm going to act on it as my heart belongs to my husband. So, it's just another way for his PMA to be improved.
My friend found this on Opera's site:
Every time you lose control to anger, fear, jealousy and rage, you allow those feelings to have power over you. When you allow yourself to feel those emotions, instead of just "acting out," you can start to recreate authentic power.
Creating Authentic Power
Step One: Whenever you are feeling a painful feeling, stop and become aware of what you are feeling.
Step Two: Remind yourself that the thoughts and feelings you're experiencing are coming from a part of you that's frightened by the thought that you're not good enough.
Step Three: Ask yourself: "Do I want my decisions to be made by a part of me that is frightened?"
Step Four: Ask yourself: "What would I do in this situation if I were compassionate and wise?"
There is learning potential in every decision you make, as well as consequences. You must accept the responsibility for every one of your decisions.
I know in this case, for me...if I'm being compassionate and wise, I'll be happy that he's happy...and not feel that his being told he's sexy is a threat to me. Cause he is sexy...and if other women can't see it they are blind!
Anyway, if you figure out how to banish the jealousy monster, tell me!!
