I went out with TM last night. It was a good time, but I'm focusing on something specific right now. Now, I know I tend to catastrophize, and I made some passing comment about something I was worried about, and she dove in, probed, and essentially called me on it.
Most people don't do that.
People generally are sympathetic, supportive, tell you that it'll be OK, you'll figure it out, etc. She just didn't let me get away with it.
And it's funny, I finally had to admit "I worry too much," and she said "I think so."
Now I've got to admit, it was a passing comment, I wasn't really dwelling on it. But funny that she didn't let it pass. And although it was a mildly uncomfortable moment, it helped strip away my anxiety about it.
So this brings up a point of comparison... XW always let me get away with it. Something would bother me, I'd go off and brood, and she would let me; or maybe she just didn't know how to get through to me, and I think she'd ultimately feel like I'd "disappeared". And she had really similar moods, she does the same thing actually, and I'd support her through her moods.
