still separated, headed for D?

[newmama]

OK, thanks WN- cake eating is letting him enjoy interactions with me while he is still with OW. correct???

And I was thinking of something--probably over analyzing--but
this week (super long it seems) here are some things

Monday
me: put together toy kitchen, discussed schedule for the week
WH: commented on how WE could add some hinges to the toy kitchen, lingered at the house

Tuesday
me: dropped off S but didn't get out of the car; didn't interact much
WH: nothing to report

Wednesday
me: texted WH to let him know about S' cough; asked for advice
WH: replied

Thursday
WH: texts me to check on S
me: I reply and ask if he is still golfing

Friday
WH: texts me to let me know about BIL
me: I reply and thank him, make a comment


me: when WH arrives to pick up S, I initiate conversation about S, BIL, golf
WH: replies but not with a lot of detail


SO what I see (maybe) is that he is feeling comfortable to initiate contact with me...(my boundaries are loosening?) but yesterday when I was chatty cathy he didn't exactly reciprocate. Maybe I came on too strong.Like an excited puppy?

Therefore, cake eating or not, today I need to just limit my interaction again. I do have a couple of things to tell him or ask but I really can wait until another time to do it; later this week. Maybe wait until I see him initiate or linger with relaxed behavior. I need to do what Gatsby had posted and mentally and physically release tension.


Gosh this is reminiscent of something...the dance of dating almost. I mean you need to let the guy know you are interested but the trick is to let him take the lead. If they ask you out, you say yes and then wait for them to call you. If they call after the date, you let them know you had a good time and would like to do it again (showing interest) but let them be the one to ask next...be patient and not freak out if you don't get a call the next day. Relax and know it might not happen for a week even because he is probably dating other women!

So if my excited puppy behavior showed I was interested (damnit!) then it's his turn to do anything else.