We talked last night and you questioned yourself and some of the things you said to your W in the midst of the R talk.
You know what I told you, and I will agree with Mach, not all R talk is bad and sometimes things just have to be said.
They custody thing, you know I told you, no verbal agreement would work. I told you you need it to be signed by a judge. To protect you and the kids, and yes, even your W.
But I did not address why you keep doing this dance with her. Or why you need to stop it.
You want to agree, because that will keep you from looking like the big bad wolf. You want her to agree with you because it is less risky than letting the courts decide.
You are afraid to fight for what you know is fair and right, because of how you might look.
You are afraid to fight because you might lose.
You need to let go of the fear, and figure out for you what is the right thing to do. And stop looking to your W for those answers.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
