SCH - I will just trow this out there...maybe I'm off base...but at least something to think about.
Lots of MLCs are at home while they go through the rest of their craziness. It's incredibly hard on the spouse, but they can DB and ride it out, still remaining detached. The question is...would you be willing to do that, are you strong enough to deal with him without sacrificing you? There are still no guarantees, but there is a chance that he will settle and things will fall into place as to the living situation as you move along.
Reading some of the restored marriages links, the MLCs are far from done when they come back, some of the LBS say that it took a year or two for them to settle after they came back.
So it's really about what YOU want
Not easy
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M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
