update: my marriage at this time will not survive because it is one sided and has been for awhile. my wife is still in contact will the guy she had the affair with. I know this because i checked her phone when she left it here i checked the calls and even called the most dialed number. left a message for him and sent my wife a goodbye letter. as soon as i get some information together i'm filing for divorce. I told i am not staying in this marriage when she is still cheating on me. The only time in 22 years of marriage to my wife that i cheated was about 3 months ago. it was a big mistake. It was before that - that my wife told me if i wanted any kind of attention from a woman that it wouldn't be from her. I thought i could move on but i didn't like the guilt that went with the cheating. Never again..
