SCh, Your H is still in deep. He really doesn't have a clue what he wants. You are so wise to have stepped back and not let him suck you in.

I believe that whatever he proposes at this time should not be taken seriously because it seems if you wait a week it changes again.

Continue to GAL and focus on you and the kids. You're doing great during this craziness. When it comes time to take your H serious, you'll know.