thanks grace, eric and sandi. sandi, great list! i've been trying with most of them...and want to focus on these:
10.Do not spy on spouse. (Not good for you and will make matters worse.) 12.Act as if you are moving on with your life! 13.Be cheerful, strong, outgoing and attractive at all times! 16.If you are in the habit of asking your spouse his/her whereabouts, ASK NOTHING!! No matter what time he/she comes home! 19.No matter what you are feeling TODAY, only show your spouse happiness and contentment. Show him/her someone he/she would want to be around, somebody that is attractive and fun. 22.Don't be overly enthusiastic b/c it will come across as fake. 24.Be patient......very, very patient. Give him/her space and time. 25.Listen carefully to what your spouse is really saying to you. 27.Take care of yourself 29.Know that your smallest CONSISTENT actions will be noticed much more than any words you can say or write. 30.Do not be openly desperate or needy even when you are hurting more than ever and are desperate and needy 32.Do not believe any of what you hear and less than 50% of what you see. 33.Do not give up no matter how dark it is or how bad you feel. 34.Do not backslide from your hard earned changes.
