Divorce with kids is like a death that just lingers and lingers. You will always have contact with the ex and you can't really eliminate it. That's hard! I have a friend who has been separated for about seven years and every time her ex moves in with a new gf she sits and cries, and that's after seven years. She sees him regularly because of the kids. So, how do you get your feelings in check and yet still set a good example for your kids by being a co-operative co-parent. I wish I had the answer! Now,I don't think you'll be able to do the Dan Detox but you can make sure your contact is as minimal as possible. I know myself that when I'm with my wife and kids I still feel a secure, happy feeling like "this is the way it's supposed to be" but it isn't anymore but that's what I feel! I try to feel it and then let it go. Am I successful, who knows?
