OK, please, what would you do, please advise! DB's, friends, readers, anyone please!!
WH is supposed to finish sep papers but is stalling. Says he really wants to reconcile, go another 20 years, misses me greatly, and so on.
BUT, NOTHING HAS CHANGED!!!! He does not know how he would live here, nor does he want us to move to his city, but he thinks he has to stay there to work because he can't work here. He also doesn't want to split the house finances which a sep agreemement will formally do, and he misses his kids. I don't want my kids growing up thinking that they can be 1/2 in and 1/2 out of a relationship, live in another city, etc etc. He doesnt' know how to get out of this mess, has no plan, says we will figure it out as "WE" go forward.
WHAT DO I DO?
Do I tell him to go away (i.e. go dark, dim, or just not play), which will lead to sep and D? Do I "reconcile" and have a partner but not one that lives with me?
GRRRRrrrrrr.... it's the same darned thing over and over and over again. Now he's texting, think about us, I miss us, will you come back.... WHAT IS HE DOING? WHY? WHAT DO I DO????????
