Eric.

I know you had a rough convo last night, and I just want to remind you that..

R talks, are not always a bad thing....

It is the ones YOU initiate that are bad....

The ones that our whacked out spouses start, well, it is sort of an opportunity to shine for a while...

To be the person that is hard to walk away from ....

That is one of the reasons that they usually get angry....then shut down.

Because it IS hard to walk away from someone who has done the work on themselves.

The responses that YOU have, should come from your heart, and be a part of you.


Those are the changes that have stuck within yourself, and you can honestly be yourself because of that.

Vicious cycle huh ?

Look, the thing with the kids....

This a button....the ONLY one she knows she can push, and turn you from the prince back into the frog...

Can't you see that ?

Dude, she does it EVERYTIME.....

BECAUSE IT FREAKIN WORKS !!!!

Remove that button from yourself...and just live....

Document your time with the kids and the things you do for/with them....

And stop tryin gto be the judge-jury-and executioner for now...

Contact some Father Advocate Groups in your area, and let the legal aspect be on the back burner if it does not involve protecting yourself...

You are NOT gonna talk her into ANYTHING rational ....

Every second you waste trying to fix this , is a second wasting living that life with them....

They know who they can count on .....