well she came home last Monday and completely brought the vibe down. I did fall pretty bad while i was wakeboarding and ended up with a concussion and whiplash. she came in heard I was hurt, and asked if anything happened to the girls. She didn't come in and say hi how are you or anything, and then went straight into tearing into me over finances.
She crossed a boundary and you let her.
Tell her that while you guys are separated she should call before coming over unannounced. Second, you were physically hurt and instead of asking how you were she was more concerned about the finances - this is your red flag on the play, she doesn't care anymore bro: she filed for divorce, didn't want you to get lawyers involved because she wants to run the show and take you to the cleaners, first lawyer you call is someone she spoke to already, she doesn't want to live with you, she doesn't try very hard, she argues, she tells you that if you do start dating not to tell her about it (that should tell you that she's already done something) she harasses you on the finances, doesn't care about your physical well-being either now while you're at home or while you were serving your country, makes you jump through every f@#king hoop there is and you do it hopefully waiting for the day that she finally accepts you into her heart again because now you're "perfect".
