Thanks YR I have detached, but I recently saw signs of reconnection, or so I thought, and I got snatched onto the rollercoater again for a short time. I am ok at the moment, but I think I left my coat behind (finding it hard to settle back into detaching again) Everything that is written in the Exlanation of reconnection I saw happen. Reconnecting with family, friends. More contact with kids Asking about pets. Texts all the time
He asked out of the blue to come to the house, which he hadn't done for 8 months. Stayed 1 1/2 hours and chatted about work mostly. He asked questions which seemed to be caring, like how I am coping with some things. He even payed me compliments. After the touch and goes I have seen previously I thought this was it. After this he continued to make contact and come for short visits to see S.
Now he has withdrawn again and I have had noting for 4 weeks. Kids get the odd text that is all. He just seems to have backed off completely and left me mixed up. He does remain in contact with my SIL and has opened up slightly to her about the sitch recently.
I know your H did similar things. Did anything help him along?? My H OW is 19. Everyone says it can't last but it seems to be. They have been together 2 years. He makes out he is so happy.
Thanks for listening I know you are right, More patience needed
