You know, I might just send a "hello" and introduction message first, wait for his response, gage, and then write back with the heavy stuff. Just a thought. You could get a feel on this guy that way.
Been mulling that over too. I think I am reluctant to do it that way though, because I want to be 'upfront' in my relationship with him. I want answers, which is why I encouraged contact. Not because I am feeling fuzzy wuzzy towards wayward Grandpa!
Sure, I can see that. I wouldn't be fuzzy wuzzy at all! But intrigued. How did this man do this for all these years? Is he ashamed, etc etc. And maybe his reply would give you insight. He might straight out apologize. He might just not write back to 'hello'. You just don't know. . .
I'm interested to hear how this initial interaction will go!
Will send off email with some cute pics of bub (who is sure not to carry his surname now) & try to be soft but clear about my motivations for contact... I expect him to get back soon because he asked me to respond quickly.
sorry, I missed that he wrote you first. Okay, that's really good. You already have his 'reply'!
Yep, I like all of that. Pics and a soft approach. I think he may actually have something to say to you since he asked specifically about you and his son. (He had to have heard what happened.)
Wow! I missed so much. Glad to read that even with sleep deprevation, you are bonding and ejoying time with your D. Happy for you!!!
Cant believe you have 60 days to finalize name! In my state we have until we leave the hospital! But I think I am set on a name. I happen to love it and H does too... but its my opinion that counts! Do what feels right to you... and set it free...
Good for you in reaching out to FIL. Your D deserves a grandfather! and you the support!
Bub is mainly contented little cherub. We had a 5hr stretch of sleep in the wee hours this morning. Joy!! She also has an angry milk rash on her face making her less beautiful!! This apparently is common and could last 4-8 weeks. It's cos all was so sterile for their skin on the inside, and outside is not so 'clean'.
My only real problem is going to the loo (I will leave out the specifics!!). Needless to say, easier said than done, ha!
We have an appointment Monday for bub's 'clicky hip' (very common in newborns 50% or something) - an ultrasound to see if she might have something worse called hip displasure. Nothing life threatening or permanent, but will need to be treated before she walks if diagnosed.
