And before anyone says it , I know it sounds like Im "rationalizing " but thats really not the case.
You are wrong. Rationalizing is exactly what you are doing.
You aren't fooling some of us, but it looks like you have yourself fooled. Rationalizing will do that to you. That is why they call it rationalizing. The person doing the rationalizing actually believes what they are telling themselves and finds any and all reasons to keep on doing what they want to do to keep from facing reality.
How interesting that it is YOU who is telling the her that you need to show her that you trust her....
I mean this same type of thing happened three years ago. I mean why should any man not trust a woman who lied about moving back in with her ex husband? Why would any man not trust a woman who wants to take her ex husband to a concert with a man who ask her to go as a friend. No reason for you to even worry anyways since you are only trying to be friends huh?
Yea, she is different all right... Keep on rationalizing... I bet she has told him that you and her were only friends all these years. After all, she could say to him that she would have gotten married if she really loved you huh? Think he would believe that? Love the one you are with.
No , I AM facing reality. The reality that we may NEVER be able to fix this. The reality that she may be lying to me about her current sitch. Yea , Im sure she told him we were only friends this whole time when he KNOWS we have two kids together. Really ??? Cmon man. And NO, I said to her that we BOTH have to be able to trust each other. I burned that for her with MY inability to do what she needed and asked me to do, that I said I could and would do and even did for awhile before slacking off. Thats the truth and I have to live with it.
