That's a question I plan on asking for sure. Your treating it as if it was a traditional marriage. It WASN'T. They were 16 years old and it was an ultimatum of sorts because she was pregnant. She left him less then 6 months after the marriage! And I dont mean left him for me, I mean left him and moved back in to her mom's house. Now how many marriages that start like that and then result in a 14 year separation, with virtually ZERO communication between them, her feelings about what he did to her plus her feelings towards him of being an absentee father for 12 years result in rekindling anything ??