I read in another thread today that Coach advised someone to check out Robert Glover's website, author of No More Mr. Nice Guy. I checked it out for myself and read some of that forum today. The advice given was very similar to yours. It seems to have worked for some guys over there too. I definitely saw myself in some of those sitchs with the guy being too nice.
Clearly what I have been doing for the past 7 1/2 months has done absolutely nothing to bring my W back. Yes, it's time for something new, time to do what works. I don't want to screw this up. As you can read from the 44+ pages of my thread, I very much want my W back and I'm willing to do whatever it takes to accomplish this. I know the mistakes I made in the past with her. I won't make them again and I know with the person I have become that I would make her forever happy. I just need to get her to look back in my direction again first so we can try to begin this process of trying to save this M.
M 38 WAW 36 Together 19 years Married 12 years Bomb/Separated Oct. 09 I love my wife Sitch