And some spouses do come back...mine did, she even said she was sorry and remorseful but 2yrs later she left again. So at some point you just say enough is enough, then you take one or two approaches i.e. I'm not expecting anything from her and I'm not putting my life on hold anymore- if she comes back I'll re-evaluate the sitch and see what happens. Or you say I'm done.
Good for you on getting out and enjoying yourself, you deserve it, we all do.
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again