I grinned and asked if I could have anything. I know I set myself up for a fall here, but I still had to ask.
It's amazing what we do for sex~ It can build bonds when the time is right and hopefully she's clued in that you'd like to get closer. Maybe try getting closer in non-sexual ways (affirmation: hugging, touch, etc.) more often.
SSM...be patient! (and a patient...)
Keep moving forward, and you'll get there. I have anxiety, too, so I know what you mean. It is hard and you can't just switch it off. It can be paralyzing. But this is the woman you do love, even if you are hurt. Stay focused on your goal.
