Sweetie, just a few thoughts. First of all, I'm sorry your wife is making you feel this way. I cannot get my mind around a mother who would not let her children be with their father as much as possible.
Who knows why she is doing this? Control, anger, who knows?
So, having said this, I agree with Jack, do what you must to protect your children.
I am just curious, though. Why are you having this conversation with her regarding the children? She is not the one who is going to decide it. It really serves no purpose other than making you feel bad and giving her more control.
And as far as the note, what are you hoping to accomplish by giving it to her? Because if you think it's going to make her change her mind or feel differently, it's not. She is not ready to hear it. It will just feel to her like you are not listening to how she feels and it will feel like pressure.
Of course, you should do what feels right to you. I suggest you write it and hold onto it for a few days before you give it. And if you do, don't be surprised if she's angry.
Hang in there, my friend. I promise you that things happen as they should.
Build memories with your children. Set an example. Show them how to get through a difficult situation with honor and integrity and strength. They are watching you. They need you to be strong. That is what gives them security. If you're alright, they will be, too. Trust that they know you love them, they know that you're there for them. They know.
