embracing change

[ImprovedRomeo]

(((FM)))

Just catching up...so sorry about what your sister's going through but hopefully it was just some things said in anger and he didn't mean anything. If it's out of character for him please ask your sister to reach out to him to find out if there's something bothering him and if he needs to talk about it. She may have to offer (not push) this a couple of times. At times my daily frustrations resulted in my getting triggered by something little and turned into a huge argument and on top of that my STBXW got upset at me because I got upset. When I just wanted her to reach out to me and ask me a simple 'what's wrong honey? I'm sorry we both acted immaturely but I want to know what's bothering you so I can help you' - that never happened and the resentment built up over time on both sides and finally we stopped valuing eachother...

I know how you feel about the lonliness part and sometimes yearning to be in someone's arms, someone you were in love with, someone who was in love with you, someone you probably felt safe with. It's hard...but with time you'll get stronger and when the time comes you'll be in someone's arms again.

Like Alice, I can't really relate to the physically controlling issue either because the stern tone of voice from me is enough to make poor DD cry (and I feel horrible when that happens even if she was out of line). But it's time that you take control of the reigns, become the alpha female and lead your pack. You have to maintain the alpha status with S6 now or when he's 10+ it's going to be really difficult because I've seen this happen. Whether that means working out so you are physically stronger than you are now (?) or getting help from a child pshycologist or reading a book on the subject. He needs direction and he needs to learn to respect you- and yes it would've been ideal to have a strong father figure in his life but you have to fill that role for now. Uncles, grand fathers usually help too.

((((FM))))