Exposed finally,,limbo land

[Optimust]

Ok, at some point in the near future I can sense a situation that is going to push my hand. At that point I will reiterate:

This is our home, and our family, we built this together, and it is ours together. I want to be in a committed, honest, loving and fun relationship with you. This can not happen as long as you are in an emotional or a physical affair, with OM, or any other man. It disrespects myself, our vows, our family, and our faith. This marriage doesn’t have room for three people.

D1 and D2 deserve an honest, stable, and loving environment which we provide them.
If you want a life full of love with me and our girls, our marriage, and our friends, you will need to end all contact with him, forever.

If you put the affair, above the needs of our family, and continue causing damage and confusion to our children, and marriage, I can not support you and I will do what it takes to protect myself an our children.

The affair. it's participants, and the pain and drama that it causes are never welcome in our home."

I need you to know that I can not live in an open marriage and if you choose the affair, I will need my space to figure some things out, and will need you to get your stuff together and find somewhere else to stay. I also will let others know that it was your choice to do this, and the reason for that choice.

This is about choices, your choices, not mine. A choice needs to be made, are you going to choose me and our family, or the affair.

Then I will expose to a few other people who may be able to encourage her to come to her senses. As well as his family and most likely his work, I have a call into his HR department to find out if there is any pressure that they can apply to him, if not I wont tell them who it is.

I will also probably soon after this retain a lawyer, so that we can start those proceedings, and be done with this. It’s not healthy for me or my kids, we don’t deserve it, and I can’t let my selfish wants and needs continue to drag this out.