Geronimo, glad to see you're getting yourself out of the house, I think it's so important to do this. I need to do it more myself but you know it's always easy to give advice than to act on it yourself! lol
As for making a deal about not wondering so much? negative. I'm a glutton for punishment. Besides my mind never shuts up...even when I'm speaking in front of a room full of strangers my mind wanders back and forth about this stuff like a drunk.
DLS, it takes years to be really done done. Until then you go through phases where you process the current thoughts and feelings and think you're done, then go through the next phase where you're OK, then the next phase where you need to process more of this crap and feel done again...and the cycle repeats until everything is processed and pastuerized- and there's nothing else left.
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again