Sounds like you handled your business meeting well. Love it that you caught H giving you the 'once over'.
I really like what HeartsBlessing always said about detaching. When we get out of the way it allows our WASs to put someone else in their crosshairs. In my situation, when I stepped aside and detached, I began to see evidence of friction between my XH and his BMF of 30 years. I'm pretty sure that my XH's BMF played an important role in convincing XH his unhappiness was because of me, so it's been interesting to watch tension grow between them. On the occasions when I see XH I say things to him like "You are so lucky to have BMF to help you with everything that you have to deal with during your mother's chronic illness (XH's mother is dying of dementia)". XH always responds with something like this: "BMF hasn't helped with that". I never respond to that. Just let our conversation end with XH thinking about his last statement.
Sounds like things aren't all rosy with your H and ow. Keep moving forward, being the classy woman that you are, and let the universe teach H the lessons he needs to learn.
