Maybe "mediate " was the wrong word ? What I mean is someone (like our neighbor) that can be an outside, impartial third party observer that can help interpret what we're each saying since communication is one of our major issues. Someone that we both feel comfortable with, is non judgmental, non threatening, non biased , etc. It just so happens to be a bonus that this woman is our neighbor and has a degree in psychology and experience with counseling. And likes both of us individually and as a couple and she ADORES our kids. She has two almost exactly the same age as our two.
She concurred that based on her past experiences counseling and reading and hearing what we were saying to each other that its obvious we both feel very deeply for each other. There's just alot of hurt to get past.
Gyn, arent I "drawing a line in the sand" by making it clear I REFUSE to be a " Good time weekend Dad " and I DO NOT accept the EX being present or involved in ANY WAY with any of OUR mutual interactions with OUR kids , like ball games and such ?
Gyn "Stop taking the punches on the chin and then turning the other cheek. Because if you were to react it would make it worse in your world..."
What do you mean by this ? It reads contradictory to me. Your saying STOP taking punches on the chin and turning the other cheek. But if I react it would make it worse ?
So if reacting would " make it worse" then isn't NOT reacting (turning the other cheek ) precisely what I SHOULD be doing ?
Im NOT trying to be difficult , I just really dont understand
