Aver, I'm not that familiar with your sitch but why do you assume you were a failure at intimacy because your spouse gave you a verbal slap in the face on his way out the door? My wife said lots of things about me right down to the way I made love to her, does that make me a lousy lover? NO, it means I had a spouse who looked for everything she possibly could to legitimize why she was ending a 17 year marriage and cheating on me. That doesn't mean we shouldn't look at these criticisms but don't just accept it like gospel, know that it came from someone with an alternative agenda, making himself feel good about what he was doing. Btw, the one year anniversary does suck, it gets easier though.
