This is the part where you raise the stakes to intimidate HER... I KNOW you're scared... You have to trust that she's scared too...
If you lose the house, you lose the house... If your wife moves out... YOu lose the house anyways right?
Do you think your wife is more LIKELY to STAY if you back DOWN and FOLD here? Do you think you folding if she calls you is going to KEEP the house?
I was in your exact position last fall Opti... I didn't have enough to cover it either, and neither did SHE... But I realized if I didn't challenge her on it I would likley LOSE the house anyways... So I did...
She ended the affair when I did that... when she SAW I meant business and put all I had into it THEN she backed down...
If you think folding now is going to KEEP your house then do it... But how do you see that happening if you back down and accept the affair to continue? How long do you think her finances will be available to you to keep that house running? How long before she moves out anyways?
Is she likley to end the affair anyways if you back down? What do you think?
My usual advice is to keep raising the stakes here until she folds... If you keep hitting the affair HARD from the other end while raising the stakes at home it reallly puts the pressure on her... And the result I am seeing many times here on her end is a FOLD
