1. Stay put in the house. 2. Do some work and find out what is really going on with this man. Call me a pessimist, but I would bet that this thing is physical and is still ongoing. 3. You exposed the affair and now you need to start giving your wife a reason to choose you over the OM. Find out what her needs are and start meeting them. You must be consistent and clear that your marriage has no room for three. She must end contact with OM. 4. Stop arguing with your wife. 5. Cancel her cell phone.
This. ^
Personally, I would go to only exactly ONE marriage counseling session if my wife were still in contact with OM with whom she's had an affair. And that would be to say -- in front of the MC -- that I had no intention of spending my family's finances (or my time) on MCing if she's still in contact with OM with whom she's had an affair.
