Please can somebody help me work out how much I go in and bat for the kids with my H? I was doing so well until last night until I came back from seeing some girlfriends and he was at the house with the kids. They are still so angry and upset with him for leaving and frustrated 'cos he just doesn't understand why they are not happy that he is happy (there's that alien again!). Anyway, after one of the kids stormed off to bed and the H walked out I did a massive backslide and phoned him to suggest that he needs to be there to help me deal with situations like this ... that its not fair on the boys that he won't talk things through with them I explained (yet again) their feelings of abandonment and how they really need him involved in their lives. He was such a devoted father prior to his MLC that kicked in last September. I tried to keep my voice calm (think I managed this) tried not to repeat myself (kind of managed this) did not make any personal digs (okay, maybe just one little one) kept the conversation just about the kids and no relationship talk. So now I feel like I've undone so much of the good work I've been doing. Is there anybody who can help me understand how to manage the talks about the kids? Thank you so much.
