I met a friend of mine last weekend and she asked how I could stand being in limbo for so long. The thing is (at least for me), I don't see it as limbo. There is nothing I can't do (except get married), so, for me it's all a state of mind. I'm not waiting. Doesn't make any of the messes hurt any less, he just isn't my H now, legally married or not, he is emotionally gone from me.
What do you think would work for you to reframe the sitch? Is there any reframing for you? Some people really need concrete in or out.
I know this totally sux for you. I hope you have a good weekend.
