a spiteful, uncaring woman who never took any interest in what I do, who secretly harbored a genteel loathing for me, and who held a million secret conferences in her head about my myriad and sundry failings as a husband and as a man and who never thought that was information that might be useful to me.
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In a nastygram today she said flat out she categorically refuses to negotiate with me, categorically refuses to authorize her lawyer to negotiate with me. She wants it all or she wants to destroy it all.
Add to this the fact that she continues to pursue (yes, she is pursuing you for control) and harass you long after you have separated ...
...and the fact that she is jumping from one relationship to another - all of which are "perfect"
and this all sounds similar to what I am going through and will go through...(although your stbx is more violent in her criticism than mine)
...and from what I am reading, it is all characteristic of NPD or BPD.
I found that reading up on BPD helped me really detach from the craziness - almost like reading the script in advance.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
