I don't remember this from your sitch. She's cake-eating on you. She has no attraction to you, she can barely have a conversation with you, she doesn't want to come home, she doesn't want to go to MC, she's closed off, she's depressed/MLC, she only wants to see her girls - cake-eating.
She's leading your family. She sees no hope for a better future because the sitch is the same for her. Not saying you aren't different, improved and aware. The lack of attraction is the same for her.
Is what you are doing working? Is it what you want? Baby steps haven't been cutting it for you and your girls. Only one way out of limbo. How would 007 handle this?
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
