Cause for alarm?

[OfficerInNeed]

FIL and W do not keep in contact often. I see the logs, they communicate once or twice a week whether it be TM or a call. When the two do not communicate he gets concerned and send W TM asking how she is. When W and FIL were communicating at least once a day via TM or call and when I was seeing FIL every other day going up to the hospital FIL got a better impression of how things were going and said things to me like "be safe" "Love you guys" and kept in touch with me via TM sending me updates on his GF.

This is how a usual conversation between me and my W go.

Sometimes W would spontaneously say "I'll be leaving soon anyway" if I don't respond she will just keep going and talk like such

- I'm leaving anyway
say nothing
- I will talk to my father's lawyer
say nothing
- and I don't know what were going to do about the dog

She will just keep going. I think if I say nothing she will think that I have given up and she'll want out even more because she will feel unwanted.

The one time I responded with "running away is not going to make things better for either of us long term" it seemed to have an affect.

My W is not the type of person to just walk out the room if I stare at her in such a way. She is the type to keep at it to get her point across.

I have been so caught up in the A and OM that I strayed away from actual recommended DB techniques. I will have to get a refresher.

W and I had a descent interaction today for the most part besides a few slip ups on my part my expecting something in return from her and allowing it to affect me.

Also I did something said something stupid...W has naturally curly hair and she is straightening it again today, dont get me wrong it looks good as well but not the same. So I said "Straightening your hair?" she replied "yes" and I said like a nitwit "I don't think <dog name> likes your hair straight" and W looked at the dog and said "Well pup, I make my own decisions and if I want to straighten my hair I will"...I knew that was intended for me.