V1olin's new life without wife

[dday101798]

Your ponderings and frustrations are logical. Been there, done that.

I still say hold off as long as you can. If nothing is going on that requires your L, then the bills not getting any bigger and she can just wait it out.

OR, you could make mention to stbx, very casually that the "final" papers are out there, and you know she has a set too. Explain your situation with your L with out too much detail and see what her intent is.