We only thought we were best friends. Friends don't ruin other friends marriages. There was phone sex and she wanted to meet for sex and I agreed to (was never going to) but I always canceled on her with some excuse hoping that it would finally go away-dumb idea. I have not had sex with her since prior to meeting my wife.
No, no, no!!!!
Friends DON'T HAVE PHONE SEX or make dates to have SEX.. Even if you didn't go through with it, this is WRONG!!!!
You cannot be friends with this OW. THAT IS A NO NO!
I'm hurting for your wife. I think she needs to have her time. She is very vulnerable right now and her emotions are raging.
She should be laughing and enjoying her pregnancy, instead, she is thinking her marriage to you was a sham and she is now trying to figure out her plan for when this baby comes. You took that from her by your stupidity!
I'm sorry but I can't help but empathize with her right now. You did a sh!tty thing by NOT being honest with her from the get-go. Let me let you in on a little secret. People who truly want to kill themselves, DO IT. They don't play the suicide card. What OW was doing was PLAYING YOU. I'm sorry if I am coming off harsh but it is what it is.
Give your wife time to heal from this betrayal.
You need to work on yourself and man up to what you've done wrong here and you need to do some serious work on your part before expecting your wife to come back.
M: 32 H: 34 S:5 D: 3 D: 1 Together 11 years Married 7 Bomb: PA/EA 8/13/09 (for 1 year on and off) ILYBINILWY: 08/09
"The end of suffering happens with the end of wanting." -Laura Munson
