My WW of 16 years gave me the ILYBINILWY speech three months ago. A couple of days later through cell phone records I discovered that she was texting OM hundreds of texts daily, after everyone was asleep.

After asking WW to end contact with OM and her subsequent refusal, I exposed the A to: OM's wife, OM's family/friends, WW friends, My family, and WW's father. After two walkout separations on my part I'm back in our house and have been for over a month.

WW refuses to end contact with OM still maintaining that it is a "friendship". We are in MC and WW says she is committed to reconciling the M but she still refuses to NC with OM.

We have had many explosions/arguments over the last few months but now we are starting to get along quite nicely.

What should my next step be?

M-43
FWW-42
T 20
M 16
DD10
DD8
EA: 1/10
Informal separation: 6/11/2010
Headed for D: 7/6/2010
Piecing? 9/10/10