Embrace the Sass

[ClingingToHope]

So I am not sure what lends itself more to my desired long-term outcome (I am talking months, years from now, he hasn't grown enough yet to be worth another chance): keeping up the friendly stuff, the emails, texts, and time together, or cutting off all communication not vital to child-rearing and financials. At this point I am just doing what I feel like doing on the given day, but plans based on feelings aren't always reliable, are they!?

Yes. That's a dilemma isn't it. It seems like you and Dan genuinely enjoyed each other's company.

Perhaps I'm still too much in the middle of things to see my situation as clearly. For a long time, I just remembered the good times. Lately, all I'm thinking about is the tension and cold silence.

Maybe after the D is final and all of that crap clears up then some new kind of relationship will develop.

I know it's hurting the girls. D11 was on one of the work laptops I brought home. I've used it before and I'd saved all of last year's Christmas photos on them.

For Christmas, at the last second, STBXW invited me to come over to open presents and then later to eat with them at her MIL's.

D11 said "that was great when you came over at Christmas. Can we do that again this year?"

I told her I didn't know what the plans are.

In my heart, I was thinking "Hell no." It turns out the reason STBXW invited me to eat at the MIL's is because she wanted to go drinking with her biker bar buddies in a town 20 minutes from her mom's house and she didn't want to have to drive the girls back to me after dinner.

But in my head, I was thinking I probably should make the effort for their sake.