I also talked to my lawyer yesterday and he said I have enough evidence to file for adultery. Here is my current plan:
1) Attempt to get husband help for problem. I know everyone has had different opinions but at least I can try. 2) Continue to wait it out, even if husband still doesn't want to work on himself or try to save marriage if we are seperated he will continue to pay his portion of mortgage and utilties so I can live in this house. If I file for D right away, I won't have as much time in home. 3) If a year comes and husband files, I will counter file with adultery and then hopefully be able to get some sort of alimony.
My reason for wanting alimony is not because I don't and can't work but I feel like - I have done EVERYTHING to save my marriage, my husband walked out on our life and I have evidence to show that throughout our entire marriage he was unfaithful. I shouldn't have to lose everything in the process. I just want enough money so that I can keep my house. My lawyer said it is possible it could happen.
When I start thinking about all of the above I have mixed emotions. If it comes down to divorce do I really want it to come to that? I certainly don't want to fight back and forth but at the same time I'm losing everythign and want to try to keep what I feel like I deserve.
