The affair that hit my home is only 8 months ended... I haven't heard anything like that and I don't pursue that... I look for ACTIONS that are positive and I keep myself afloat with those... the words come LATER
For many WS its easier to DO something loving (like going to an event with you or buying you a bicycle) than to express it verbally outright to their spouse
Your wife is not one day going to suddenly start smiling.. its gonig to be gradual...
I get the sense already that you are hearing her threats to leave LESS OFTEN now than when the OM was racing through her imagination daily... yes?
You need to stop aiming so high here... you want positive actions gradually increasing in number and the negative ones VERY GRADUALLY decreasing in number...
From your posts I am reading them and I think a lot of them are going right over your head unnoticed
Your wife IS talking to you, she IS having dinner with you, she IS going to do errands with you yes?
You CAN last a year doing what you are doing now.. there are MANY here that last LONGER than a year and deal with a LOT WORSE than you have... If you think you can't deal with your pain believe me you don't know what pain is yet... You have only tasted a drop of it...
