still separated, headed for D?

[newmama]

BobbiJo--yeah, I remember how WH and I tried to encourage our SIL to start dating 6 months after her H left! I am sooo mortified now that I thought that would help her. I had no clue.

Our friends and family mean well but they seem to think that dating is the answer for us to be happy again! My aunt waited 10 years but then found a great man she has been seeing for the last 5 years!

OK found this on another forum but don't know if it applies to affairs:

One of the ways in which you express love to a spouse who has walked out on you is by being patient.

The scriptures say, "love is patient". Your marriage did not fall apart overnight and it will not be rebuilt today. Don't set time limits for yourself or your spouse. Be patient with your spouse's ambivalence.

During separation people are often pulled in two directions: On the one hand is the desire for reconciliation, on the other, there is the pain and hurt that says, 'give up'.

Patience is the first step toward love.


thanks to mort fertel.