BJ, my STBX wanted me to go away with her and the kids for an overnight trip out of town! She said "we don't spend much family time together with them any more" Gee, maybe our "family time" is limited because YOU DITCHED ME and tore the family apart! I'm just guessing, mind you.
Yeah, that's where I struggle, exactly on that issue. For the kids, for now, I think doing things together is fantastic. Because we really do get along well, somehow, even with this whole mess. So it isn't like the time we are together we are fighting and arguing. It is almost like it was pre-A...except of course he leaves and goes back to his place after the movie/dinner/ball game, etc.
Anyone who has read me long can see right through me and knows I would like us to reconcile, if/when he finds that clue he has been missing. {of course pulling his head out of his @ss would help him see it!}
So I am not sure what lends itself more to my desired long-term outcome (I am talking months, years from now, he hasn't grown enough yet to be worth another chance): keeping up the friendly stuff, the emails, texts, and time together, or cutting off all communication not vital to child-rearing and financials. At this point I am just doing what I feel like doing on the given day, but plans based on feelings aren't always reliable, are they!?
OK I said I wouldn't waste time overthinking things so I am getting back to school work now!
