I don't mind it if it's a 3rd person, and one who WOULDN'T be perceived as being sent by the betrayed spouse, cuz they were too chicken to do it themselves. No way a cheating woman's father would qualify for such a concern, so I think it's great.
The problems I have with BSs themselves confronting OP, is:
- it elevates them in importance
- it's perceived as weak (and you're right, normally because it's DONE weakly)
- it gives the illicit couple something to laugh about -- at your expense
- betrayed spouses will often confuse the info that they get from such an exchange as being something that actually resembles the TRUTH, and then they try to act on it. An OP will give you DECEIT at worst, and SPIN at best. There's NOTHING useful to be gained from information gleaned from such an exchange.
- many BSs couldn't handle it, and might get violent. You don't do your family any good from a jail cell.
