Puppy, Coach...advice..anyone...Need a quick answe

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If he chooses to go over there he knows the consequences. If he does not care then that shows me he could care less about our family. He does not think what he is doing is affecting our children...How do you feel about that Greek??

I do not FEEL anything about that, Swimming. I THINK and BELIEVE that you are correct. I point that out to model for you that now is not a time to address matters based on FEELING. Swimming must base her decisions on THOUGHT and BELIEF. Far more reliable than feelings, sister.

And yes, if he crosses the boundary you have put down, you will put the consequence into effect. You WILL ask him to move out, give him a week to pick up his things, and you will interview lawyers the very next day b/c you will divorce a man who will not be faithful. And even if he begs you not, too (b/c I think the coward will beg you not to throw him out), you will stand by what you believe which is that you will not be part of a harem and remain married to a person who would put you in that position. And begging won't sway you from that. It will take a lot more than that to convince you that he wants his marriage. HE will have to do the heavy lifting to make that right and you will accept nothing less. That is how Swimming rolls.
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